We talked a little bit about frustration in our post about ANGER, but here we are going to focus more on irritability, agitation, and disappointment here. You see all these emotions have to do with unmet expectations or a set of thoughts/standard we have internally that we impose on ourselves and others. These feelings can fuel those of anger and frustration, but the root cause may be different. The tension that arises in us from these emotions is very similar to anger and the response from the amygdala can produce some of the same neurotransmitters, but how we handle these emotions is rooted more in our internal thoughts than our external reactions.
Some of the oils and blends that may be helpful are Idaho Blue Spruce, Copaiba, Sacred Frankincense, Acceptance, Idaho Balsam Fir, Melissa, Valor, Palo Santo, Hope, Harmony, Forgiveness, Peace & Calming, Humility.
It’s hard to admit, but I probably struggle the most with this one in our family. I have very high standards and expectations for myself and for me that translates into having high expectations for those around me. It also leads to me feel disappointed often when I give 110% and someone else doesn’t.
The interesting part about this, is that I originally bought Idaho Blue Spruce and combined it with Copaiba & Palo Santo to help support my IBS and associated digestive discomfort. What I got as a bonus was less irritability and feeling of disappointment.
When I realized that there was more to it, I started intentionally and prayerfully examining my expectations of others and working on right sizing and clearly communicating those expectations to both my kids, my husband, and my work team. What a difference it makes when you take the time to do an emotional inventory and analysis, and free yourself from destructive thought and action patterns.
I have since made this a regular practice and I diffuse and apply Peace & Calming while I do it. I’ll also taught this gem to my middle daughter Ellie, she is strikingly similar to me. Many times I can look at her and know what she is probably thinking by the annoyed look on her face. She has talked to me about stuffing her emotions and often being frustrated by things and by herself. If I can help her gain some perspective on this one now, she’ll save herself a lot of irritation and disappointment in the future.